Take Action - Advice for Sellers

Recently I came across a blog post written by a free lance writer named Karen Hellier entitled,"In Life and Business, Taking Action Creates Opportunities." As a good piece of writing will do, it elicited a number of comments from people, including the following story related by Jack Lewitz, Realtor® in Evanston Illinois, and paraphrased by me:

Psychotherapist Milton Erickson was treating two lonely patients, one female and and one male. As part of his therapy he told the female to go to the park every day and sit in a specific park bench for a specific period of time. He told the male patient to walk in this park every day at a specific time. These two people finally met each other and no longer complained of being lonely.

This charming story is a good example how action can be better than no action.

Since I am a residential Realtor,® the topic of real estate comes up in conversations for me almost daily. I have heard numerous homeowners say things like, "I wish I lived closer to my grandchildren" or "I've always dreamed about living in San Francisco," or "I sure am getting tired of all these stairs," and, "I want to do more gardening than I can here."

Take actionWhat is keeping these sellers from taking action and moving on with their lives and their dreams?

Sometimes it could be that they are simply overwhelmed by the idea of selling their property, and have no idea what is involved in the process or how to start. That is completely understandable since a property owner feeling this way likely has not sold a property for many year. This is new, uncharted water to them.

This doesn't have to be a stumbling block.

The first step to take is to get in touch with a trusted real estate professional. A good Realtor® will listen and will ask open ended questions so she (or he) has a thorough understanding of the situation. She will explain the selling process, breaking it into easy-to-understand steps and will prepare a complimentary market analysis so the seller knows what a likely sales price would be. The Realtor® and the property owner will discuss whether this is the right time to sell, both from a financial standpoint and from the sellers' own particular standpoint and move forward as appropriate. This is a service I, and many Realtors® are happy to provide at no cost or obligation.

While I am certainly not a proponent of selling before the time is right for the seller, I believe potential sellers owe it to themselves to find out - and then  take the action they determine is best for them.

Buyers, too, can be stymied by inaction. Read the post by Jack Lewitz for some good advice for buyers, and how they might take action to propel their lives forward.



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Lottie Kendall, Realtor®


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Comment balloon 17 commentsLottie Kendall • January 19 2017 02:43AM


There is plenty for sellers to do so they need to get on it right away.

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) over 3 years ago

I feel many propective sellers should really consult with a Realtor and explore their options Lottie Kendall 

Posted by Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS, South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker! (Fathom Realty Washington LLC) over 3 years ago

Good morning Lottie. It is important to speak with a Realtor who knows.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) over 3 years ago

Lottie Kendall - What a lovely story. I appreciate the thoughtful way you weaved it all together. When I came to the conclusion I thought to myself, "You only get to live once." 

What a powerful impact you made on me today. Thank you, Lottie. 

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) over 3 years ago

Lottie Kendall - What a wonderful post.  If you find yourself saying I wish I had... now is the time to seriously consider what is holding you back.  What if I wish becomes I am going to... , or I am ready.... A very powerful message!

Posted by Laura Allen, Lake Tahoe - Truckee Real Estate for Sale TahoeLauraRealEstate.com, Tahoe Real Estate Agent Helping Buyers and Sellers (Coldwell Banker, Tahoe City, CA (530) 414-1260) over 3 years ago

Good morning William Feela - sellers often don't know where to start; that's where we can help. 

I agree, Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, Broker, Tacoma Washington - we're in a position to listen and educate, to take away some of the scary unknown.

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) over 3 years ago

Hello Sheila Anderson - since we deal with the selling process every day, we can help and advise those who don't.

Hi Patricia Feager - I loved that story that Jack Lewitz related. Taking action starts progress.



Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) over 3 years ago

Good morning, Laura Allen, Lake Tahoe - Truckee Real Estate for Sale www.TahoeLauraLuxuryHomes.com - I like what you said, " what if I wish becomes I am going to!"

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) over 3 years ago


Sitting on the fence . . . . doesn't get things done.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Posted by Lou Ludwig, Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC (Ludwig & Associates) over 3 years ago

So true, Lou Ludwig - sitting on the sidelines doesn't accomplish a thing. Action!

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) over 3 years ago

Taking Action.

The first step in all successful outcomes.

thanks for sharing this story and advice Lottie, your clients are wise to seek your guidance when they are ready to take action.

Posted by Bob Crane, Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671 (Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities) over 3 years ago

One of my coaches Joe Stumpf, had Psychotherapist Milton Erickson as his mentor.

Posted by MichelleCherie Carr Crowe Just Call...408-252-8900, Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years (Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty) over 3 years ago

Bob Crane - action is necessary for any advance. 

Michelle Carr-Crowe-Top 1% Diamond Certified Real Estate Team Sells Cupertino San Jose Homes-Just Call 408-252-8900 - interesting that Erickson was a mentor of Joe Stumpf

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) over 3 years ago


It's a tough decision to decide to sell and it should not be taken lightly. Talking with the right Realtor makes lots of sense as part of that decision-making process so an informed decision can be made. Selling now may not be the best idea.


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California) over 3 years ago

Lottie,  Inaction and Fear hold too many people back from truly living the life they would prefer to have.  It all starts with working with a professional that will guide them through the process of achieving their dreams and wishes.

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) over 3 years ago

I think many people fail to act because of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of risks. Fear of change. Talking to someone about what exactly would be required, and how to get them help to find their new place, can help them get moving.

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty) over 3 years ago

Hello Jeff Dowler - each potential seller needs to understand why they are thinking of selling, what they wish to accomplish; they will then be better able to decide if this is the right time for them or not.

Kathleen Daniels and Kat Palmiotti - you think the same way I do. Part of our job, when talking with potential sellers, is to help educate them, taking away some of the fear factor so they can make a wise decision.

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) over 3 years ago